87.       Sunrise/Sunset

Too often people miss the beautiful miracle of a sunrise or sunset.  Schedule time to get up early one morning with a thermos of hot coffee or cappuccino and find a quiet place where the two of you can go just to watch the sun rise or set.  Appreciate what nature has to offer and share it with each other.

88.       Explorations

Find something they you are both interested in exploring and do it together.  For example, if you live in a place where there are caves, make a day of driving around and exploring caves.  Be sure to take the right equipment and safety precautions but this puts you both in a position of trusting each other and discovering something new and exciting together.

89.       To Tell or Not to Tell

Experts will disagree on how much of a person’s past should be shared in a relationship and while some things probably should be shared, most people lean more to not sharing every aspect of the past.  First, it is the past.  Think back to how much people grow through the teen years to mid-twenties.  Offering unnecessary information from the past is a great way to create distrust, insecurity, and more questions than answers.  Be wise when sharing.

90.       Respect Privacy

When two people come together in a relationship, each person has their own set of history.  There are yearbooks, maybe love letters from a first love, other objects that may not seem important to one person but to the owner, they have a special meaning.  It is important to respect the privacy of your mate’s “stuff.”  Do not dig through boxes of things owned by your mate out of curiosity.  Instead, allow them to bring those things out if they feel it is necessary.  By helping yourself, you are disrespecting something sacred to your mate, which is not healthy for any relationship.

91.       No Place for Abuse

Regardless of how much you love your mate and believe in who they are, there is NEVER an appropriate time for abuse, whether physical, emotional, or verbal.  If your mate shows aggression or any form of abuse toward you, seek counseling for both of you immediately to try to work through things.  If your mate refuses to go, even if it is hard, leave.  First is your safety.  Second, it is possible for people to learn ways in which to manage their aggressions.  If this is the case, the life of the relationship has a much better chance of surviving!

92.       Open Your Eyes

Do not drive yourself crazy with this, but take notice of how your relationship is going.  Open your eyes and take stock of what is and is not working in your relationship.  Are there definite things missing or definite problem areas that need to be worked on?   Think about it.  If you invest in the stock market, you pay attention to what is going on so you can make changes if needed.  Your relationship is far more than the stock market but requires some of the same strategies.

93.       The Grass is NOT Greener!

Too many times, people get tired of working on the relationship they are currently in and feel that by moving on to another person, they will find greener pastures.  This is just not the case.  What happens is when you move to another person, things are fresh, new, and exciting just as they were in the beginning of your current relationship.  Within time, that relationship will also start experiencing differences and bumps in the road.  Unless you are being abused or your mate is doing something illegal or completely irresponsible, perhaps the efforts you would put into starting a new relationship would be better spent fixing the one you have.

94.       Start a Journal

Keep your personal feelings and discoveries about your mate in a journal.  This will help to remember what special things he or she likes or dislikes, track the wonderful times spent together, and help you to feel better when you hit an obstacle in your relationship.  When things get a little tough, refer to your journal and read through all the terrific emotions and time together and you will find plenty of reasons to make things right again.